Hotshots: The Language of Love.

more by Jason Gardner | Youth

Title: The Language of Love.

This assembly focuses on sex and is aimed at older year groups.

Opening Illustration:

This work’s best with powerpoint. Display ways of saying ‘Hello’ from different languages, Hint - go to www.wikihow.com/Say-Hello-in-Different-Languages
Accompany this with some upbeat or appropriate music. Eg, Scissor Sisters version of  comfortably numb begins by repeating ‘hello.’
Alternatively get a variety of students on to the stage who know how to say ‘Hello’ in a language other than English or quiz a couple of students to see if they can name the language of origin for a variety of ways of saying Hello.

Talk:

Being able to say Hello in a different language is good. But if you wanted to be able to say hello to everyone on earth in their own language you’d have to learn at least 2976 languages.

And if you had to spend a long amount of time in one country, being able to say ‘Hello’ isn’t going to get you that far.

So what would you rather be able to do? Know how to say Hello in every language in the world? Or would you rather speak one other language fluently? Say French, or Spanish or Mandarin.

I know which I’d prefer - when you meet someone from another country not being able to speak to them in their own language can be a real barrier to getting to know someone. Imagine if there was a girl or boy you liked and all you could say to them was ‘hello’

Just as being able to say ‘hello’ in one language won’t get you very far in a relationship with someone who speaks another language. Simply being able to have sex with someone won’t get you very far in a relationship either. If you build a relationship just on having sex you’re not speaking the language of love, all you’re doing is saying Hello.

For some of you, you may be thinking that’s as far as I want to go in most relationships. I just want the sex nothing more. You might want to play the field, sleep around. But if that attitude is right, how come most famous people end up getting married at some point? To a degree they can sleep with whoever they want but it’s obviously not enough they need more commitment. And if sleeping around is right how come our bodies can’t handle it? How come we can get all sorts of damaging diseases?

Sometimes we mistake the language of sex for the language of love. Sometimes we think if someone wants to have sex with us that means they love us, or that they’ll love us more if we let them have sex with us. Often the reality is we’re just another notch on a bedpost, just another trophy.

What you need, what your body, heart and soul really desires is love. Someone who’ll spend time getting to know you, someone who’ll love you body, heart and soul.

If sex is the only language you learn to speak with someone, if that’s what your relationship is built on, don’t be surprised if you never really learn the language of love.

For Further Illustration:

Christian Perspective:

Gen 2:18. God decrees that most of his creation is good but in this verse he says it’s not good for man to be alone. We’re built for intimate relationships not one night stands.

Film Clip

Just Married    1hr 19 mins 0 seconds to 1:21.12

After a disastrous honeymoon, Ashton Kutcher’s character Tom learns from his Dad that part of learning the language of love is about committing to each other through the hard times.